Let me preface this by saying this will be long and may be all over the place. This is for personal reflection, but I hope it encourages you to take time to thoroughly reflect from time to time.
I don’t know that I’ve ever felt such a combination of gratitude, fear, self-frustration, self-doubt, and confusion in a long time. Funny enough, it was probably back a decade ago, when I was 17 that I felt similarly – being at several crossroads in life… Back then, it was struggles and doubt with my sexuality, religion, self-love, post-high-school plans, and trauma… Now, at 27, I struggle with professional competence, pursuing the “right” career (whatever that means), my personal identity outside the context of school/work, and the reality that my youth is fleeting more rapidly than I anticipated… Similar to 17, self-love and spirituality are still sore spots, but in a different way.
Overall, I’ve learned to love myself, but only to the degree of my utility in bettering humanity and the environment. I’ve had a life-long struggle with tying self-worth to work-ethic – and what a horrible notion we’ve been socialized to accept. I’m working on countering this mindset, but it’s a struggle… In some ways, though, is it necessarily a bad thing to gauge self-worth to justice efforts – especially considering my spirituality (pantheism)? To a degree, maybe – so long as it’s motivating and not self-depreciating? I don’t know… So, really, I think my self-love is tied to self-worth, which is tied to work ethic, and I do think this is toxic. I am valuable and worthy for simply existing – that’s what school and pantheism tells me. I know this. I just wish I felt it…
I find is illuminating to realize just how much I’ve used school and work to keep me so busy that I can successfully neglect my emotions and personal wishes in life. There is an appeal to throw myself back into a 60+ hour work week, now that I’m graduated – both to ignore my feelings and assimilate to the fucked-up burnout culture that we worship… But I’m refusing. It’s time for introspection. It’s time to appreciate life outside the context of being so stressed that I’m perpetually irritable, regularly bite my finger nails until they bleed, drink so much coffee that I have digestive problems (severe enough to get a colonoscopy), and experience chronic, persistent anxiety (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) – always stressed, always prepared for the next crisis… I feel like I don’t even fully know who I am outside of work and school… I like video games and spending time outside, but what else…?
I want to spend the next 2 years ONLY working 40 hours per week. I want to reconnect with myself, explore potential interests, travel, and work on inner peace. And doing so will allow me to be a better (whatever the fuck I’m going to be)… The last semester of grad school felt so isolating, in that EVERY classmate planned to pursue their clinical license after graduating, and I’m not…at least not right now. The biggest revelation this past academic year is that I will not be content doing clinical work alone. I will not be able to sleep knowing that so many of the issues facing my clients are due to shitty, non-inclusive, neglectful, or discriminatory policies at the municipal, state, and federal levels… I know I either need to shift into macro-level social work (which I am not readily prepared for) or politics (which I’m even more unprepared for).
But here’s the thing: I convinced myself that I was grossly under-qualified for my current job in research – I almost didn’t even apply. Turns out, I got it over 30+ candidates. Also turns out I was definitely not prepared for everything the job entailed – BUT THAT WAS OKAY. I LEARNED WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW. AND my past annual review was perfect, saying I was an asset to the study’s success… Why do I also convince myself that I can’t do something just because I have a few blind spots. I KNOW we are lifelong learners. I KNOW I can learn what I don’t know, and I know how to do it! I just wish I felt it…
I look to political inspirations, like Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez and Eva Perón – two women (with drastically different stories) who NOBODY thought would have the influence they achieved… But that’s the other thing: I want so badly to run for office, but I don’t think Michigan is ready for my radical-left agenda. We saw it during the last gubernatorial election, when we had a great progressive in Abdul El-Sayed, but settled for center-left Gretchen Whitmer (though, I’m sure Islamophobia definitely was a factor, too). We see it again with Bernie Sanders (may he be forever blessed) and Joe Biden…
But here’s the thing: Radicals have historically changed the world for the better, leading to socially acceptable of policies we take for granted as being basic ethics, today. Look at Dorothea Dix – WHAT. A. PHENOMENAL. ADVOCATE. Jane Addams with poverty… The greatest social progress is made by those who are “too far left” and society is NEVER READY for them… I know I need to research their histories better to understand how they were able to be successful, despite the odds against them. That is the knowledge, passion, and motivation I want to embody. Sometimes I think I’m overly optimistic, but…
…Thinking back to religion, and my exiting of Christianity as a young adult, the most liberating thing has to be letting go of the concept of sin. I was raised to believe everyone is dirty with sin – that our humanity itself is flawed and unworthy. And that’s why Jesus had to be a sacrifice – to forgive us of our shortcomings, lest we spent an eternity in agonizing suffering… And what an atrocious sentiment that is.
Leaving religion allowed me to revise my view of people as being basically good. I believe humans have a natural tendency to prosper and be loving toward each other – but they must have a nurturing environment. I do suicide-prevention research with people in jail. Believe me when I tell you that the consequences of not having love and support manifest as people having limited options, making non-ideal choices, feeling like absolute shit about themselves in the process… People are not flawed: they just need the right set of circumstances to flourish. The more I experience – the more I bare witness to stories of vulnerability and suffering – the more strongly I hold to my political convictions.
The reality is we have the capacity to eliminate much of the unnecessary suffering in the United States and much of the globe: many have been corrupted through greed, though, and those are the people who hold the power.
One thing that will not help, I promise you, is conservative policy, which actively demonizes the vulnerable members of our society. (A big “fuck you” to Trump, Pence, and McConnell – just to name a few favorites). A chain is only as strong as its weakest link, as a society is only as strong as its most vulnerable people. America (and the world) is failing. And you know what I learned during my last semester, if you outline a researched, realistic plan of action, you have it more figured out than many politicians. I can do that, and I will.
One of my last thoughts here is that I’m honored to share a birthday Eva Perón. I cannot tell you how much inspiration I draw from this woman. A rags-to-riches radical who NEVER forgot where she came from, wielding her power to nearly eliminate the working-class status in Argentina. (Tactics and rise to power questionable? Yup.) Her integrity to dedicate herself to fight for the poor and be a beacon of hope inspires me daily. I keep her portrait above my desk. There were times in school I couldn’t muster motivation to do my work. I would look up at her, breathe, and promise to keep going.
I am one of Eva’s millions, and school served as a foundation. It’s time for me take a couple years to regroup, strategize, and execute my political agenda with compassion for humanity, dignity of people, and love. I promise, “BLT” will be a household name, like “AOC,” and you will see my unflattering picture as I am mercilessly mocked on Fox News…. And I can’t wait.
Get ready, because I’m coming.